Episode 273: Reframing Problems
Join Kelli as she chats about the power of reframing our problems.
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Transcript
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kelliwalkercoaching
Hey guys welcome to not another anxiety show I'm your host Kelly Walker and today it's just me sharing an interesting tidbit about some recent research regarding problem solving so when we're struggling with an issue a challenge or a problem. At work at home or in our relationships you know any of the areas that are most important to us. It's so enticing to jump into analyzing and solving mode that is what most of us do who feel like there's a problem but research has found that a far more effective strategy for problem solving. Is to slow down and reframe by asking 2 questions one. So what really is the problem and 2 is there a different way to look at the problem. So let me gladly share an example. Admittedly. Sometimes I get annoyed at my husband and his tendency towards let's call it. Carelessness. So what is the problem here when I'm annoyed with him. Wow. At First glance, it feels like he's definitely the problem. However. I've come to notice that his carelessness of spilling crap everywhere doesn't always bother me usually when I'm annoyed by his greasy prints on the microwave or spilled water down the front of the cabinets. It's because I'm feeling edgy stressed or type for time. So.
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kelliwalkercoaching
So usually at second glance, the problem is me feeling stressed or overwhelmed so is there a different way to look at this problem. What other angles can I take here you know apart from assuming my husband is the problem. Well I could notice that I'm feeling stressed and tired I could expand further and notice that there just isn't enough time in the morning to clean up after making my kids breakfast before having to get to work and there isn't enough time in the morning because you know. You've been getting to bed a little later watching too much british breaking show and therefore waking up a little later so really getting a little more sleep and getting to bed just 10 to 15 minutes earlier would make a big difference. And probably be a far more effective solution. Um, you know than losing my you know what on my husband and you know keep in mind if your body is feeling like it's a eight nine or 10 out of 10 on the anxiety scale. Give it a little support first before diving into reframing this is something that's only accessible when our prefrontal cortex is online and we have lots of episodes on grounding and self-care for those really high anxiety moments. Otherwise.
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kelliwalkercoaching
Please feel free to check out the show notes for the link to an interesting webinar from the institute of coaching about problem solving effectively. So that's our episode. Thanks so much for tuning in today if you're enjoying the show please subscribe and take a minute to write a review on iTunes so that we can reach and support more people. If you're looking for one-on-one coaching or you have a question you'd like to answered on the show. Please visit notnotheranxietyshow.com and until next time remember be kind to yourself.
